At times I seem to forget how to “human”, and when people talk about their problems or say that they don’t know what to do about something I forget that most people really just want to vent. Instead I answer with a solution (you know, just like the classic “man” when some women joke about men wanting to solve all their problems instead of just listening. I do that too.). This is because of my dominant mental function, Extrovert Thinking, which makes me want to find solutions to just about anything.
This also makes me want to do stuff all the time, like _all_ the time. Being sick and forced to lie in bed doing nothing feels almost like torture, because I feel like I’m not myself if I’m not doing something. And then I sometimes answer questions online, because I forget that other people don’t want solutions – they want to vent, as I said, and I get misunderstood because people don’t see my intention. They only see that I’m giving them a solution, that they maybe didn’t want in the first place.
Here’s the thing – most of the time the solutions to your problems are simple. Most people’s medical issues are for example caused by stress. And there are simple solutions to lowering your stress levels: 1. Mediation 2. Eating better 3. Focusing on sleep 4. Focusing on relationships 5. Getting exercise and other things like that.
None of those solutions are easy! All are simple – “just do it”. But just doing it is not easy. It is not easy to start a meditation practice! It is not easy to start eating healthy, especially if you have no idea where to start. It is not easy to get better sleep. All of it is simple – there is information out there about how to do all of those things (and people like I actually enjoy helping people with these things). None of it is easy.
Like it is really simple how to run a marathon – just start running and keep on running. But it is not easy!
So when I sometimes tell people “this can help” I always, always, know that it is not easy, despite being simple. Also – if anyone wants a meditation buddy or just encouragement to keep going, reach out to someone with Extrovert Thinking like an ENTJ like me, or an ESTJ or an ENFP. Chances are high that they want to help you, and will be there walking you through whatever it is you need help with in your life!
P.S. This is also why I sometimes get a bit annoyed when people think I have it so easy – yes, I’ve achieved a lot, and know a lot, and am good at a lot of things, but I’ve worked so hard at everything! Nothing is free, I’ve worked for everything. All of it simple things that most people can do, but not easy. It’s the easy-part that sometimes divides people into people who do and people who don’t. Some people get scared of things that aren’t easy. I run toward stuff like that (again, because of my personality).